Whether through speed dating events, dating Web sites or blind dates, more often than not, it is the dream of the loveless to fall head over heels in love while dating and receive the ultimate reward, marriage. Nonetheless, before many can even get to the last step they must go through the process of weeding out the good ones, as well as bad. By itself, this scenario doesn’t pose an immediate threat, the various dating types, however, can. But, wouldn’t it be nice to know what types to avoid? Look no further, you’ve come to the right place to learn about six of them.
Action Speaks Volumes
1. No body wants to feel like a puppet on a string, but this is exactly what can happen if you date the controlling type. Just so you know controlling behavior when it rears its ugly head, a controller is one that controls. Controlling people want to regulate your every move, which is not a sign of love; what many don’t know is that being controlled is the exact opposite of being loved. Which do you prefer?
2. We all want love and affection from our mate. However, it’s a fine line between needing love and affection and being just plain old needy. How does a needy mate act? Those who are needy want or need constant reassurance, affection and attention to an excessive degree. Pay strict attention if your mate exhibits an attitude whenever they are not made the focal point of attention, behavior which can cause enormous amounts of problems in the long run, as their needs and wants go unmet.
3. Whether a lie is told to spare your feelings or to dodge a looming issue, a liar should be avoided no matter the reason. And, if you sense your mate has lied to you on several occasions, this is even more justification that you should exit stage left.
Constantly being on guard for the next bomb to drop, because you are unsure if what your mate is saying is true, is not fair to you and this situation has potential for the makings of a turbulent relationship. Simply put, the lying type cannot be trusted. Furthermore, how can you build a strong foundation with someone who constantly is in the habit of telling tall tales?
4. Question: Have you ever made an impulsive decision, only to regret it later? Well, if you date an impulse person, the same can hold true. Those who are impulsive are quick to make bad decisions without thinking the varied consequences through, which can leave you stuck in the middle of everything. They, moreover, will not care how their decisions directly impact you. Impulsive acts can range from impulsive generosity to hugging strangers. Either way, impulsive behavior is not a good sign, especially when it goes unchecked in a relationship.
5. Under normal circumstances, children eventually grow into fully capable adults, who can tackle the life issues set before them. Nonetheless, this is not the case for child-like mates. Mates who still receive meals, cleaning and an allowance from a parent may resemble a child, but just in a grown person’s body. This behavior shows a high level of immaturity and dependence that only will leave you frustrated in the end. Some child types see nothing wrong with their behavior, so this pattern will be very hard to break.
6. Lifetime television is saturated with both fiction and non-fiction movies about women and men who are stalked on a regular basis. By definition stalking means to move threateningly or menacingly. What do those who stalk gain? Stalking solely is a crime of power and control; it is a pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fearful or ill at ease.
Stalking also includes, but is not limited to:
- Obtaining personal information about the victim by accessing public records, using Internet search services, hiring private investigators, going through the victim’s garbage, following the victim, contacting victim’s family, friends or neighbors;
- Harassing a victim via Internet;
- Repeatedly leaving or sending a victim unwanted items such as presents or flowers;
- Repeated, unwanted, intrusive and frightening communications from the perpetrator by postal mail and/or email;
- Following or waiting for the victim at places such as work, home or school;
- Making direct or indirect threats to harm the victim, the victim’s children, relatives, friends or pets, even;
- Damaging or threatening to damage the victim’s personal property;
- Posting personal information or spreading rumors about the victim on the Internet, in a public place or through word of mouth.
Looking Deep Before You Leap
The aforementioned are tell-tale signs that a mate can eventually become a toxic partner. These signs are excellent to know because no one wants to waste hours, days and years dating the wrong person, when in fact, they can find their true ‘Mr. or Ms. Right’ — enough said!
Web Links:
http://www.tvone.tv/shows/fatal-attraction/inside-the-show/top-10–dont-date-this.html/the-needy-one-;
http://www.tvone.tv/shows/fatal-attraction/inside-the-show/top-10–dont-date-this.html/the-liar;
http://www.tvone.tv/shows/fatal-attraction/inside-the-show/top-10–dont-date-this.html/the-child-;
http://www.tvone.tv/shows/fatal-attraction/inside-the-show/top-10–dont-date-this.html/the-stalker-;
http://www.ovw.usdoj.gov/aboutstalking.htm
-Kimberly Williams
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